Sunday, May 18, 2014

May 2014 Week 3 Tidbits


To begin with, how many things can you point out that are wrong with this picture above? Yes, there are no sheets--good. And yes, Kayden is wearing girly pajamas, and why you may be asking are Lanaea and Kayden sleeping in the same bed? Well, let me explain, the sheets? Mondays happen to be my laundry day and this Monday I bit off more then I could chew and the sheets didn't make their way back to beds before evening. Kayden's pajamas? Well, you know he has three sisters and I tend to have laundry issues...apparently. Don't worry he does own boyish pajamas too. And why are they sleeping in the same bed? Lanaea got irritated by her sisters and decided to sleep in Kayden's bed without my knowledge. When I came in to put Kayden down for the night I found her in his bed so I set up his pack and play port-a-crib for him to sleep in for the night. Later that night when I came back to check on them, that pic above is what I found. My little boy is a monkey and no crib of any kind can contain him anymore so I have to lock his door so he doesn't come out of his room to get him to go to sleep. The problem is, is that he can't climb back into the port-a-crib without help, so he bunked up with his sister...girly pajamas, no sheets and all. And don't worry, Lanaea was put back in her own bed WITH sheets and Kayden got put back in his port-a-crib until I got his crib sheets back on the next day.

Other then this motherly blunder, the rest of the week went well, just busy. Blake had call on Monday and Wednesday. Monday night was a doosy with phone calls throughout most of the night keeping both of us awake for what felt like all night. I injured my arm about 3 1/2 week ago donating plasma, I know...donating plasma? Blake had been doing it too because we needed some extra cash. I was in for my second donation and they infiltrated my vein (blood essentially got into my tissues) and I got the biggest and ugliest bruise you have EVER seen on my right arm. I haven't talked about it before now because it's been quite upsetting to me, but it doesn't hurt anymore and the bruise has mostly resolved. It still has at least a week or two to go before my body absorbs the rest of the blood. Anyways, Wednesday was my first day back to lifting weights with my arms and getting back into my normal workout routine at the gym. It felt really good and I did better then I thought I would. Friday night and Saturday I paid for it though...my legs were so sore!! It was good though, it has been a while that I have been so sore and apparently whatever I did, my body needed it to get stronger. It's been just over a year since I got my gym membership and it's been such a blessing to me. I never realized before how much I love to exercise! It's such a release. I have the most amazing gym to go to too. The classes are great, but what makes it SO awesome is the free kid's club that watch my kids while I work out. I have become friends with the ladies that take care of my kids and they have all lamented over the fact that we will be moving soon.

Friday Blake had a mock oral boards with his attending physicians. He said it went well and was glad to have it over with. Oral boards come after his written exam that he takes on July 10th of this year. After so many months into practicing, I want to say 6 months, you start collecting all the cases you have done and have to present them to a national board for review. This collection period lasts for about 6 months (I think?). The committee of board members pick 10 cases of your cases and then you have to study them and be able to answer questions pertaining to them. They may ask why you chose a certain approach, or why they used this method instead of another, etc. If the committee is satisfied with your answers you become what is called "Board Certified". It's very important to become board certified!

Blake and I also had our annual Friday night date. We played it simple and went to a burger joint to eat and went to some stores. It was low key and nice to be together. Saturday Blake and I were in charge of our Ward Party. We had a breakfast and softball game at the park. The ward provided eggs, tortillas, cheese, salsa, brisket, and drinks and ward members brought sides. Thankfully another member of the quorum went shopping to get the food so I didn't have to. We just had to cook eggs in the morning before we left our house. Blake did most of the hard work of setting everything up at the location. The kids had a blast playing with friends and on the playground. I even played a little bit of softball with the boys. It had been a while since I had swung a baseball bat. I had forgotten how much fun it is. Kayden LOVED watching. He's such a little boy and I LOVE it!! He loves balls, trucks, cars, planes, anything boy and he doesn't get those interests from any of the 4 girls that love on him all day. Below is a little video of him. Instead of saying car, he makes the sound of "brrrr" vibrating his lips....SO CUTE, I'll be sad when he grows out of it.


And for the finale to finish off the week....Blake and I spoke in church. I was grateful for the opportunity because it gave me a chance to leave my testimony with a ward that has been so good to me and my family while we have been here. It was like a parting testimony. Both our talks went well. We were asked to speak on experiences we have had here in Lubbock and how they relate to the scriptures. The things I spoke on were very personal and close to my heart and I struggled to keep my composure during my entire talk. After the meeting I had to go outside and hangout by the temple (our temple and stake center share the same lot) to cry and get my composure back. I think many were touched and I was thankful I was able to share something so meaningful to me. Blake bore his testimony on the Book of Mormon, but didn't go into much about our time here in Lubbock because I covered that ground pretty thoroughly. I usually don't write out my talks, but this one I did because it helped me collect my thoughts. I attached it for your reading pleasure below.

The Lord is my Shepherd
I’m grateful for the opportunity I’ve been given to speak to you today. I’ve actually been going over this talk in my head for a couple of months even though I was just asked to speak last Sunday because as many of you know, we are moving in July and I’ve been thinking about what I would want to say to you all before we leave. As I have been contemplating about this more deeply this week, my heart has been full of gratitude and love as I have reminisced on how the Lord has guided us and taken care of us these past five years. I’ve been praying to know what Heavenly Father would have me share with you all and I have felt strongly that He wants me to share some experiences we have had here in Lubbock that have helped me realize how much the Lord loves each of us and that He is with us continually to help us with whatever it is we need at the time. This scripture found I found in Isaiah 58:11 sums it up perfectly: “And the Lord shall guide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in drought, and make fat they bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not.”

 Funny how this scripture mentions drought, because I believe Lubbock has been in a drought the entire five years we have lived here. Ironic it may be, but I have truly felt the Lord’s love, guidance and comfort during the different seasons of drought we have experienced during the time we have been here.
For those that don’t know, my husband Blake has been doing a residency in orthopedic surgery and is just about to finish, marking 9 years from the time he started medical school. The rigors of this pursuit have not been easy and all of us have felt strained at one time or another constituting what can be described according to that scripture as a drought different periods of his medical training. Despite the challenges, as the Lord promised in that scripture: He has satisfied our souls in these periods of hardship or drought, and like a watered garden, we have felt nourished and have felt His loving care and comfort. Our burdens when heavy, were made to feel light, our marriage when tested was strengthened, when all the world’s logic said having children during this time was unwise, we were blessed with 4 and they have been nothing but a blessing to us. The list could go on and on. Like Nephi, I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save he should prepare a way for them to accomplish the thing which he commandeth them.

One experience I feel inspired to share happened not quite a year after we moved here to Lubbock and about 2 months after we were blessed with our 3rd daughter Lanaea. It was the most severe drought we had yet experienced as a family and it was during a time that the Lord took especial care of us. My husband Blake became very ill from a chronic disease he was diagnosed with many years back. His condition was such that he was hospitalized for a week, lost a significant amount of weight among other things, and had to have 3 different surgeries at a hospital in Abilene over the course of not quite a year. As you would expect, his illness then subsequent surgeries was not conducive to his medical training.  My heart ached with worry, but I took hope in reading Blake’s patriarchal blessing and did my best to live with faith that the Lord would take care of us.
In a talk given in the October 2008 General Conference, Elder Holland said when talking about Adam and Eve soon after they left the Garden of Eden,
“God knew the challenges they would face, and He certainly knew how lonely and troubled they would sometimes feel. So He watched over His mortal family constantly, heard their prayers always and sent prophets (and later apostles) to teach, counsel, and guide them. But in times of special need, He sent angels, divine messengers, to bless His children, reassure them that heaven was always very close and that His help was always very near.”
During this difficult time in our lives, we received all these things. We did not have any visitations of heavenly messengers, but Heavenly Father sent many of you to “reassure [us] that heaven [was] very close that this His Help was always very near.”    

Elder Holland continued:
“When we speak of those who are instruments in the hand of God, we are reminded that not all angels are from the other side of the veil. Some of them we walk with and talk with—here, now, every day. Some of them reside in our own neighborhoods, Some of them gave birth to us…Indeed heaven never seems closer than when we see the love of God manifested in the kindness and devotion of people so good and so pure that angelic is the only word that comes to mind.”

One of these angels sent to us during this time was our dear bishop who we learned happened to have the same disease as Blake and was therefore able to offer perfect empathy and give me a special kind of hope that I couldn’t have gotten anywhere else. Another was our next door neighbor who we learned after we bought our house was LDS. Some of you may remember the Bentley’s. Because of Blake’s condition, he was unable to do any yard work so I had been mowing the grass myself. KC Bentley would often beat me to it, arising early on a Saturday so he could get it done before I did. Having them right next door brought me comfort.

Blake’s parents were our angels for a season when they both flew out for each surgery, Blake’s Mom staying with Kelsey and Mylee in Lubbock. Even taking Kelsey to her first day of Kindergarten that happened to overlap with one of Blake’s surgeries. Blake’s dad came with Blake, Lanaea (who was still a young nursing baby at the time), and I to Abilene. Blake’s dad paid for my own hotel room and took care of my every need and was there as a support during Blake’s surgery. Another angel was my sweet Lanaea. When she was born we were unsure about a middle name, but felt inspired to name her Lanaea Joy after getting to know her a little bit at the hospital. She has lived up to her name because she has been nothing but Joy to us. She was a Joy to me during a time when having a young baby to care for was not convenient. The hospital staff were all amazed at what a good baby Lanaea was during each of Blake’s hospital stays that lasted about a week each time.

Over the course of almost a year, Blake struggled with his health. I was extremely fragile emotionally and spent physically, but we both did our best to get back to “normal” life as we knew it even though we were far from normal especially Blake.  His powerful faith and heavenly help enabled him to continue to go to work and he did his best despite his physical limitations. Heavenly Father blessed Blake’s bosses and most of his colleagues with a sympathetic heart, taking extra call among other things to assist Blake in his recovery.

Part of getting back to normal for me included being active in my calling as Stake Young Woman secretary. One night, the President, Marti Wallace said she felt inspired for me to go to a meeting for her, so I went. I honestly don’t remember what was talked about at the meeting, but I remember feeling like President Shumway was going to ask me to pray to close the meeting, which he did. I don’t remember what I said, but Sister Merrill said that she felt a strong prompting as I prayed that she needed to talk to me to see how I was doing.  We talked for a while and my emotions overcame me. I shared with her my burdens and she took some of them with her as we parted that day. Our newly called Relief Society President Sister Mitchell showed up at my door the next day. After a long talk and another dump load of burdens, she left promising me visiting teachers who she knew would come to visit me, she arranged to have meals brought in to me a couple days a week, and said she would coordinate with the Elder’s quorum to have them come mow our lawn when it needed it. I felt embarrassed for accepting such service, but it humbled me and I needed it and Heavenly Father provided a way for me to get help because He knew I wouldn’t ask for it. 

I was grateful and humbled for that service during that time and it was done by many of you, working as instruments in the Lord’s hands, my angels. It helped me re-charge my batteries and helped me focus on my family and in nourishing my testimony and faith in the Savior. I learned from President Uchdorf’s talk he gave in October of 2010, that during times of stress we need to slow down on focus on the basics. He said,
“One of the things we learn from studying the growth of trees is that during seasons when conditions are ideal, trees grow at a normal rate. However, during seasons when growing conditions are not ideal, tress slow down their growth and devote their energy to the basic elements necessary for survival.”
I expressed concern to Sister Mitchell that I was receiving too much. She reassured me that I would get my chance to give back. When I received my call to serve in compassionate service almost two years ago, I felt so thankful and knew that call had come from the Lord. It was Him giving me a chance to give back during all those times that I was the receiver.
Sister Cammack, whom I served with in Young Women’s is another woman I consider an angel that was sent to me in a time that I was in special need.  In the early days of Blake’s illness and before Sister Cammack knew much about what was going on, she asked if she could start taking my girls for the day once a week. She said she felt like she should have asked me sooner and apologized for not doing so. At first I was hesitant, because it was such a generous offer and I didn’t want to burden her. But in the back of my mind, I wanted to accept because I needed it. After some humbling, I consented and she took Kelsey and Mylee once a day every week for 6 hours at a time. She did this consistently for TWO YEARS, taking just Mylee once Kelsey started Kindergarten the 2nd year. It was such a blessing to me and ending up being a big blessing to her and my children as well. Her grandchildren lived far away and she was not able to see them very often. My girls loved having a grandmother figure to look up to close by. Sister Cammack had the tradition of taking them to Chick-fila or McDonald’s for lunch EVERY visit and would always send them home with snacks of cheese puffs and Hershey kisses. She has since moved from Lubbock, but her friendship and service is something I will hold dear forever.

Sister Wallace, who served as President when I served in the young women’s, is another dear sister that has brought me much comfort and served me in times of need. Sister Wallace had served as my Beehive advisor when I was a girl in Utah. I had learned about her living here after Blake matched here for residency. It was another tender mercy of the Lord. Knowing that she lived here made me feel immediately at home. When I came to look for a house without Blake, she let me stay at her house, found me a great realtor, and escorted me house shopping. I consider her my mom away from home. Our schedules don’t allow us to see or talk to each other much, but she is someone I can call if I need anything and she’ll do it. On one day, I was out on an assignment to pick up t-shirts I had ordered for youth conference downtown and I got lost. Due to a limited budget, I had decided to not have the added expense of having a cell phone, so I was lost without a phone to call for help. I remember going into a dairy queen to use a pay phone, but couldn’t get a hold of anyone. After some fervent prayers I eventually found the t-shirt shop and I made it back just in time for the stake youth committee to organize the shirts for youth conference. After this experience, Sister Wallace showed up one day at my house with a new cell phone she had purchased just for me that she put under her plan and insisted that I take it and use it at no charge. I once again felt humbled and blessed.

In D&C 84:88 it reads: And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up.

I have seen this manifested in my life so many times. The Lord loves us so much, we are his children and he wants us to come back to him.
Just recently I’ve had a couple of experiences that have once again reminded me of how much the Lord is aware of us and how much He truly watches over us. I took my oldest daughter to a gymnastics meet here in town because some teams from Albuquerque were coming to compete and I wanted to see the talent in the different gyms to get an idea on what gym we should transfer Kelsey to when we move to Albuquerque in a couple of months. The next day was Sunday and Blake and I noticed a new family sitting on the front row. Blake went to introduce himself and welcomed them. They happened to be at the meet the day before competing and were just visiting. While talking we found out they lived in an area of Albuquerque that we have been looking for a house to rent. He mentioned that he knew a family in their ward that was just finishing up a fellowship and may want to rent their house out. He gave us their number and he gave the family our number. Within days that family called us. They were in fact wanting to rent their house. And their house happened to have the EXACT square footage as ours, the same number of bedrooms, and the rent they were asking was the EXACT amount we are currently paying for our mortgage. Again another tender mercy from the Lord.

Another occasion happened about a month ago when we were getting ready to put our house up for sale by owner. Every year Texas Tech gives the new incoming residents a packet of information to fill out. In that packet they give residents that are leaving an opportunity to include a house flyer for those that are trying to sell. I put together a flyer and put together a nice website with pictures of our house. Blake also emailed the residents that matched into his program our flyer in case they were interested. Blake received an email back within hours from one of the new in-coming residents in his program expressing a desire to come look at our house. After going through our house, they came back with an offer within a couple of days and we were able to agree on a price that we were both happy with. Our buyer’s mother also happens to be a realtor in Texas so she took care of all the paper work that none of us had experience with. All tender mercies of the Lord and once again confirmation that the Lord is aware of us and that He takes good care of us.   
In D&C 90:24 it says, “Search diligently, pray always, and be believing, and all things shall work together for your good, if ye walk uprightly and remember the covenant wherewith ye have covenanted one with another.”

I testify that this is true. BEAR TESTIMONY….CLOSE

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